Super interesting article posted today...
A study published by sociologist Corrine Reczek says that for all the good that comes of being married / committed / relationship-bound, there are some negatives. And they shoudl not be overlooked, because they relate to health, wealth, and well-being.
From my view, some of the trade-offs in health, wealth, and well-being are ok 'sometimes'.
For the feeling of comfort you get when you are sad...perhaps the trade off is jointly not working out that day to mourn.
For the feeling of stress when it's just too much...perhaps the trade off is blowing off grilled chicken and vegetables and going out for pizza to talk about it.
For the munchies you get on a Saturday night while cuddling and watching a movie...perhaps the trade off is your other-half sneaks a handful of popcorn.
I am not trying to discount the research or the idea. It probably is quite valid - and for all the scenarios listed above, the external tripping hazard in the form of a spouse's bad behavior can be detrimental to your own internal motivation. Yes, yes, yes, I really believe that.
But I still think being committed has a zillion benefits. People are not meant to go through life alone; humans are social, familial creatures. And for me personally, being married (to Jeff specifically!) is one of the best decisions I ever made.